“Initially, we could get the kids only on weekends,” says Scott. “We got Lucas full-time just a few days before his fourth birthday. I moved in with Maria in March 2015, and he was born in September. So, I’ve been part of Lucas’s and Estrella’s lives since they were born. I met J’Lynn a little bit before her third birthday in this house. When we got Lucas full-time, Maria was at work, so I picked him up and took him straight to her so she could cry and hug him because we finally got the first one. It took three more years to get the other two.”
Since the children had already lived a while with them, few adjustments were needed once the adoptions became final. That doesn’t mean they haven’t had to deal with some logistical issues, especially since they’re both working grandparents raising young children.
“Before we got any of the kids, I was a shift supervisor,” says Maria. “Once we got Lucas, I stepped back a couple days in the week, and now I’m just a server. That was my choice, because I want to make sure the kids have what they need here (at home).”
Initially, Maria would take Lucas to preschool, then Scott would pick him up. Now, she’s able to both take the kids to school and pick them up afterward. Scott, then tends to take over once he gets home from work, giving Maria some respite.
“Keeping up with them is not difficult, but it did take some getting used to,” says Scott. “When I come home from work about six or six-thirty in the evening, it’s ‘Poppa, can we do this; Poppa, can we do that?’ And I’m thinking, ‘Dang, I just got here.’ But we have a skate park just two blocks in one direction and a regular park two blocks in the other direction, so we’ll take walks together in the evening.